Something New: Letting Love Find You

Well I'm done with my SCWK 200 class and now I can use this blog to discuss pretty much anything my heart desires (Don't worry, I won't stray far from the intended objective.)

So, can you guess what a hopeless romantic's first free topic might be?
Don't rush, I'll wait...

Yep that's it... Love. :^)

Ever since I was young the statement "Let love come to you" has been drilled into my skull and the family never failed at reiterating that point (to this day I'm still not sure if they did it to be overprotective, or because they actually cared; either way it was good advice). I did not truly understand the meaning behind the message until I actually started dating and after having some time to sit and think about what was said I realized that for some, it is not that easy. Being on a college campus is the closest thing to culture shock that I have ever had and because of it, people watching has become a new past time of mine.

Over the last 3 years I've seen hand holding (among other public displays of affection), general kindness, and even some anger towards the previously mentioned actions. Even so, on a college campus that can be encouraging or discouraging. Encouraging because it could give a person something to look forward to, and discouraging because many feel like if they have trouble "finding love" before they graduate then it will be even harder once they are working in their field. Sadly, studies show that many successful African American women don't get married later in life if they can't find a companion before they find their career.

Which leads me back to what I was saying before. I am a firm believer that there is someone for everyone, but I also feel that if you try to force that person, or any person for that matter, to love you then you are missing the point...

LOVE TAKES TIME

It may not be a long period for some, but it still takes time. Think about the commercial where the father is holding his newborn and says "I'm at that point", it took him 9 months to get to that point in which he realized that he loved that child, but he got there. I guess what I'm trying to say is that it's different for everyone, but you must be patient. I was always the one who said that when God wanted to put another love in my life he would and all I would have to do is let things play out. I like to think that I got lucky. I spent so much time on making myself into what I consider the goal oriented, dependable woman. That it was almost inevitable that I'd run into the goal oriented, dependable man. I feel as though I have loved and cared for myself so much that God feels like I am capable of loving someone else as much, if not more than, I love myself.
I understand that relationships are different for everyone, but I feel that no matter how many bad relationships one may have, as long as they have enough love for themselves, the bad relationships can only show you what you won't get in the good one. So, take the time to develop yourself, love yourself, and care for yourself... then, when you have done that to the best of your ability, will love find you.

avec beaucoup d'amour
-Tyleshia-