What am I missing here?!?!?!

Ok, so I am in NO way a on love or relationships compared to some others in my age range, but lately (this weekend actually) some questions popped into my head/heart and I just had the urge to get them out. {I mean this is a blog about what I'm learning in my last few years as a college student, Why not use it to the fullest?} so as a disclaimer...

IF YOU ARE HERE FOR A LOVE POEM AND SOME NICE CONVERSATION YOU ARE IN THE WRONG PLACE, I'M FRUSTRATED AND DON'T REALLY FEEL LIKE BEING TACTFUL TODAY....

Well, over the weekend I got the chance to chill with 3 of my friends whom I met at WU and I began to notice a few things about each of them, some things that never really meant much before, but for some reason made me wonder what made me different from them and what actually made others catch the vibes that they expelled. And then I also began to wonder things about their relationships with other people... and with each other. That's what led me to the first major question I had; (the order of these questions will make sense later)

What really makes us all compatible with each other?

I mean, I know its not rocket science, but why do we all get along with each other when there are so many things that we do to sometimes make the people around us uncomfortable. For example, I decided to distance myself from one of my "friends" because he continued to (in my opinion) belittle me when it came to a relationship I had with another male at our school... and yet even though I never criticized him or his relationship, I told him how I felt about it, and even though he didn't care how I felt about his actions, we acted as if nothing ever happened and we both just let it go.... for some of my other friends who know how I can get at times they would look at me and either think or say "WTF Ty?!?!?!?!" or the ever so infamous "Seriously Ty?!?" @ times I really do wonder why I never hit the fan with this....

Question 2

Why is it that we (yea all of us) at times begin to compare ourselves to others who aren't exactly like us?

We all have that couple in out group of friends who make it obvious that they are Madly in love with each other so why is it that when some of us see this they try to compare their hellacious past relationships to that couple and try to figure out ways that one of them will "F*** up a good thang". Seriously... that really pisses me off when that mess happens... I'm all for the empowerment of the human race and all that jazz, but how can you call yourself a friend when you can't even be happy for what they have. Think about it. How many people do you know that can tell you all the negative bull going on in their life, but when you mention something good, they either:

A. Suck their teeth
B. Change the subject
C. Talk a whole lotta mess about that "friend"
D. put out that friends "business"
or E. All of the above..

Why do people do that? Why are they so miserable that they can't appreciate and accept the fact that others are happy? and why in (*forgive my language*) the hell do they continue to smile and laugh in your face after they have been talking s^!% about you for the last 4 hours (hypothetically speaking of course)

Am I really the only one bothered by this mess lately?!??! *waits for answer* DIDN'T THINK SO...

Question 3

Why is it that we get upset at how people in love act around those who aren't in love or with the one they love?

I've been guilty of this a few times before, but I don't think I've ever taken it to the extent that I heard when it came from others and that goes for the young and the old. I was extremely hurt by somethings that went down earlier this week, and to be honest I caught myself wanting to flick off some of the couples that I've seen in the last few weeks (Restraint sometimes isn't my strong suit though... I did it a few times at the mall *don't judge me You don't know my struggles*) but anyway, this goes back to the previous question... why is is so hard for us, as a people to be happy for each other? For example, I've actually heard some people talk badly about a relationship that was close to home even though the woman's husband had been deceased for a while, COME ON BLACK PEOPLE!!! (excuse my niggatry) IT'S ONE THING TO BE MAD CUZ SHE TOOK YO MAN, BUT IT'S JUST PLAIN RUDE TO BE MAD CUZ YOU NEVER HAD A CHANCE WITH HER MAN!!! GROW DA HELL UP!!

UGH!!!!

I'm getting angrier by the word, so I'm just gonna stop here....

To be continued another day... feel free to give your opinion on any of the questions or statements I made...

Peace!